Where I like it…

As many of you females have, I received the following message on Facebook from a friend:

OK ladies here’s a game, like the bra color game which was a total sucess and we had men wondering for days what was with the colors and it made the News. Well this game has to do with your handbag, where we put our handbag the moment we get home for example “I like it on the couch”, “I like it on the kitchen counter”, “I like it on the dresser” well you get the idea. Just put your answer as your Status and nothing more than that and cut n paste this message and forward to all your FB female friends to their inbox. The bra game made it to the news. Let’s see how powerful we women really are!”

A little background info for any non-facebookers out there. Several months ago there was an onslaught of females updating their FB status with a single color. The intent was supposedly to share what your bra color was in an effort to raise awareness about breast cancer. The effect it had was apparently it made the news. Personally the effect it had on me was  it caused me to rage. I love fb. I love social networking. I adore being able to reunite, connect and share my life with people who mean a lot to me. I detest cancer as much as we all do. Especially in light of the events during this last year. However, I despise stupid campaigns that take energy away from fighting what really matters. From actually DOING something. I get cranky about people wearing pink and thinking it’s somehow making a difference. So I was down right livid that somehow people were equating updating your fb status with a single color to fighting breast cancer. You want to really make a difference?  Then donate money. Donate time. Donate energy. Real energy. Not a status update.

So now we have a new game. That’s supposedly supposed to “show how powerful we women really are”. Once again, it’s using sexual innuendos to draw attention to ourselves.  Well how about this. Do you know where I like it?I like it in the voting booth. How’s that? Do you want to really show how powerful women are? Then how about you get out and vote.  How about you encourage others to do the same. How about you donate your Facebook status to informing other women about issues that should matter to women. Health care, education, child care, etc. If we got out and voted as much as we update our status update, think how powerful THAT would make us.



  • I hear you. And if you haven’t already read this. Huffington Post has a pretty profound article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/fran-visco/why-im-not-celebrating-br_b_749128.html?ref=fb&src=sp


    • That is a brilliant article Wendie. Thank you for sharing it.


      • We all know the importance of volunteering and donating to all deserving charities. We appreciate being included in the process of making a differance by supporting breast cancer awareness, voter’s obligations and animal rights. Sometimes the seriousness of the subjects becomes daunting. Injecting a little levity never hurt and could give us the strength to do more. Laugh a little!!


      • Deborah, thanks for reading and responding. I have to agree with you that we definitely need humor to get us through these tough subjects. I know that I personally used humor a lot after my dad was diagnosed with cancer. We would joke that he was using cancer an excuse to get out of things, etc. As I pointed out to someone on Fb, I wasn’t intending to tell people to stop participating in these games. I myself play all kinds of games. I just hate the reality that for many people they feel like they’re doing something by participating in these games. I know that women care about breast cancer. I know that they want to do something about it. But I seriously question how productive some of these efforts are. And I KNOW women are powerful. I don’t need a game to show me that. But for all that power, very little comes of it if we don’t get out and vote! That is my main point. 🙂


  • I don’t have a handbag. I must not be an empowered woman. Sad.


  • Megan, I’m so glad you said this! I was wondering if I was the only person who found this disturbing, rather than cute or funny.


  • Very nicely said my friend!


  • Right on.

    I’ve never had the inclination to participate in those silly fb campaigns. I don’t see how they represent any kind of power.


  • AMEN SISTER!! I’m all for games and laughing, but the bra thing was retarded. By the time it was forwarded to me, there wasn’t even a MENTION of it being for breast cancer awareness. It was just a “look how cute/flirty/naughty I can be by posting my bra color and making the men confused!”. Lame. Lame. Lame. The campaigns don’t say a thing about power – they just make women look like a bunch of sheep/lemmings.

    Love you and love that you are not a Facebook twit.


  • I am often so proud of you. Again, I am.


  • Amen sister! (I know someone else wrote that but I thought it too) 🙂


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