So much more than pretty
“I hope I’m pretty when I grow up,” you tell me, with wide fawn eyes and a nervous smile. You say it earnestly seeking out the future and not just fishing for compliments.
“Why is it important to you?” I ask, trying to steady my voice and keep it void of emotion.
“Because pretty matters,” you tell me confidently, with five and 3/4 years of experience.
Pretty does matter, my sweet girl. It matters very little to me, but I would be lying if I said it doesn’t matter anywhere. But in the very large scheme of things, in the giant puzzle of life, in the thousands of choices of things that matter, pretty is just one piece.
So,
I hope you are kind enough to realize that pretty can change in a second.
I hope you are bold enough to stand up for those who are not deemed pretty.
I hope you are interesting enough to get attention for your quirks, and not your skirts.
I hope you are smart enough to learn that wisdom is more important than pretty could ever be.
I hope you are strong enough to fight for the pieces that matter so much more than pretty.
I have been writing about you here for 5 years. I have shared stories, descriptions, love letters and my most cherished memories that describe the Lulu that I love more than life itself.
I would never use a word as simplistic as pretty to describe what you are.
You are the first person I think of when my stomach aches from laughing. You are the smooth-skinned treasure that would sacrifice herself for the life of a worm. You are the brightest star in the sky that everyone looks to first, because everything else seems dim in comparison.
You are so much more than pretty.
You will spend half your lifetime wanting to be something that you already are.
I will spend all your lifetime wanting you to be more.
In the end, we both will be right.
very touching and true!!
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This is so beautiful.
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A beautiful blog that completely captures the love of a mom for her daughter. I could not have written it better myself and these echo the feelings of my own heart when I look at my darling daughter.
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This is absolutely stunning and so true. My little girl is only two but, after living in a world that put so much emphasis on beauty and nearly left me crippled from the experience, I hope to instill my daughter with a worth that comes from so much more than how she looks or dresses. Thank you for sharing this. It was so very touching. 🙂
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Lovely
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As the parent of another five-year-old girl who is just beginning to think about things like this, I very much identify with this post. I especially like this part:
“Pretty does matter, my sweet girl. It matters very little to me, but I would be lying if I said it doesn’t matter anywhere. But in the very large scheme of things, in the giant puzzle of life, in the thousands of choices of things that matter, pretty is just one piece.”
I love the way you phrased that: “pretty is just one piece.” That’s a beautiful perspective to give to a little girl! I hope I can pass that to my daughter as well.
Thanks for writing this!!
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Thank you for reading! I think it is going to be an ongoing battle, that is for sure! Good luck to you and if you discover anything that works I would love to hear about it!
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Oh my goodness how I love this post. It’s one of the things I really struggle with being the mom of three girls. As much as I hate to say it, looks are important in today’s world. 😦 I want my girls to know that it isn’t everything. You are so much more than how you look.
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I absolutely am in love with this post. I have 2 daughters aged 2 and 4. This is so incredibly important for me to instill in them. GREAT post! Shared on Facebook.
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Two daughters two years apart, just like me! 🙂 Thank you for reading and for sharing.
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Thank you Meg, for voicing/writing thoughts I’ve had for my girls, so beautifully. I will be sharing this all over the place; I have many friends with daughters. 🙂
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Thank YOU for reading! This raising girls stuff is not easy. I’m happy to not be going it alone!
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This is a wonderful post! Thanks so much for your insight into one of the biggest issues all of us girls face. Your daughter is lucky to have you. 🙂
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